I can’t tell you how long I have been wanting to write. But as I have said before, I don’t want to write about anything and everything. I want to write about specific topics I believe the Lord is speaking to me about. With that being said…Let’s jump right in!
Let me ask you a question when you look in the mirror, what do you see? Do you find yourself looking right past a beautiful smile to the love handles you are trying so desperately to shape and tone? Or looking past those big brown eyes right to the smallest spot of acne on your forehead? Often times, we are our worst critic. You’ve probably heard it many times before. But I encourage you, when you look into the mirror throughout the day, make a conscious decision to acknowledge 3 good qualities about yourself for every 1 thing you don’t like. They can be physical characteristics but if you want to challenge yourself and re-shape your self-image from the inside out, acknowledge 3 good qualities that are not related to your physical appearance. I commit to you today on March 1st to practice this for 30 days.
David praised the Lord in Psalm 139:14 because he recognized that he was fearfully and wonderfully made by a Father who loves him dearly! And he loves you as well, whether you are tall, short, love handles or not. He does not look at the outward appearance but looks at the heart according to 1 Samuel 16:7.
These negative thoughts can often become so strong that you not only find yourself criticizing the person you see in the mirror but comparing yourself to others. Let me just say this, no one has the same life that you do! Everyone was raised differently, experienced different things, and had to make different decisions. Comparing yourself either result in self-pity or pride. There isn’t much of a middle ground with comparison. Self-pity can result in anxious thoughts, lead you to act out in different ways in an attempt to cover up what is going on inside and many other things. Pride, well it can be just as restraining. You begin to think of yourself as superior to others not taking their feelings into account when you speak to them, and eventually turning your back on what God wants to do in your life. No matter where in your life the pride is, it will affect your relationship with the Father. I once heard from a Pastor that when you compare your life, it is not even a valid comparison. You are comparing everything in your life to their highlight reel. Meaning, you are comparing all the good, bad and ugly of your life to someone’s great life. The main way that I recognize comparison starting to grow in my life is when I am on social media or watching TV. First off, most TV shows are fictional, and those lives are written by producers and dramatized for more views. Secondly, pictures on social media are edited and thought about for hours. I’m not bashing those people at all, but I do want to give you a different perspective. It is almost as if this generation is in a trance by social media. And it takes a conscious decision to snap yourself out of it and look at it from God’s perspective. If you are passionate about social media, consider using it to glorify the Lord rather than taking “selfies”. I am not trying to be cold or harsh but I am getting off topic.
My point with all of this is that you understand that the Lord loves you just the way you are. He doesn’t see the mistakes you have made. He is a gracious father. I don’t say any of this out of condemnation. Honestly, it is the very thing I am working on right now.
Father, thank you for being so gracious with us. I pray for every young man and woman reading this. I ask that you would begin to show them how much you love them. And I ask that as they begin this challenge that you would show them what you see in them, past all the flaws and insecurities. Thank you, Lord for renewing our minds every day as we surrender to your will. In Jesus name, I pray, Amen.
1 Samuel 16:7